This is the most oft asked question I get about my marriage.
If you know us at all - in real life or from afar - it is easy to discern that we are, in many ways, complete opposites. We are both quick to admit that the other is not what we had planned.
I am: prissy
He is: not
I am: faith-based
He is: not
I am: fairly conservative
He is: fairly liberal
I: make snap judgments and hold grudges
He: is generous and forgiving to a fault
I: can be easily offended and rarely swear
He: makes a living with vulgar and perverse humor
I: think I'm funny
He: does not
I: read books/magazines/the internet voraciously
He: barely reads his texts
I: could sleep for fifteen hours straight and still wake up sleepy
He: has never, since he exited the womb, slept more than a handful of hours at a time
I: get overwhelmed and anxious with too much activity
He: thrives on it
I: get emotional about something at least once a day
He: is a steady rock
Still, we do make sense together.
The easy answer is this: We are not as different as we seem.
The hard answer is this: We work hard to make compatible the parts of us that are contrary.
The Gorilla is not at all who people expect him to be if they know his work. In our home, he isn't crass or stunt-y. And wherever he is, he brings an integrity that the public doesn't see.
If you've seen his most recent movie, then you've seen more of his flesh than I reveal on this blog. You've also seen a Pigtail cameo. And you might think to yourself, "How does someone let their baby end up in a movie that features humorous nudity?"
I'll tell you who: Someone like me who ends up with someone like him.