How do we feel about people Instagramming the most precious moments of your life? Sharing your wedding dress with the world before you've shared it yourself? Putting a fake faded filter over your centerpieces, giving their own spin on your special details?
I'm torn. The first few times I saw a cell phone photo of a blurry bride in my facebook feed, I was appalled. Sad for the new wife. She put every effort into her appearance that day and she will not be happy to be tagged from that angle.
But then I think it's also a way for everyone to be celebrating with the happy couple, raising our virtual glasses of champagne in a toast to your happiness when we "like" a photo or comment using exclamation points.
The Gorilla and I are headed to a wedding this weekend (my first time in New Orleans!) and I know it will be a special event. I know I'll want to share some of the cool party details but the actual vows or the kiss or the publicly private moment on the dance floor? Personally, I think I'll keep my phone down.
And then what about the professional photographers? Awhile ago I linked to an article from a professional wedding photographer who expressed irritation at everyone trying to get the good shot, when the only one with that right is the one being paid. My photographer friends have told me about other photographers who insist that couples ask guests NOT to post to social media and make the bride and groom sign contracts about it. (This is for publishing reasons, and for the record, I would never hire a photographer to instructed me to control my guests.)
When I think back to my own wedding (only six years ago, but a lifetime in terms of social media), would I have minded if people shared what a fun time they were having at an event I had meticulously planned? I don't think so. Lots of our friends gave us photos that they took from our wedding, and some of them are my favorites of the whole weekend. I think it might have delighted me if I'd seen them online.
But I totally see the other side of it, too. What say you?
Does sharing from a wedding feel like it's an invasion or is it celebratory?