I grew up in a very small town in southern Oklahoma. The summer after I graduated from the state university, a broken heart and general itchiness sent me fleeing sight unseen to California. It was the most important decision I’ve ever made.
That first year away from home was hard and scary and wonderful. I fell into television production, and for six years reality television ruled my world. I got to work on some amazing projects, and some not-so-amazing projects. When the novelty wore off, I knew I was in the wrong business.
It was no easy task, getting that man to share his last name. But I knew this was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and I told my bridesmaids before we walked down the aisle that this was my life’s work.
I can have a flair for the dramatic.
I made the decision not to work after we got married. It was becoming more and more difficult to make our lives work well with his crazy career and my disillusionment in television. I didn’t want to miss out on anything that his success awarded us, and had my own dreams to pursue that didn’t involve television production.
I struggled for a long time with the fact that I didn’t bring home any of my own bacon. I grew up with a working mother, I have feminist leanings. I didn’t want my worth to be seen as “less than,” and I cringed every time I was asked what I “do.”
I don’t lose sleep over it anymore. I no longer apologize for the choices I’ve made. I am doing exactly what I want to be doing, and even though it isn’t what I planned or expected for my life, I can’t imagine it any other way.
So now my life’s work is my marriage, my children, and my daily attempt to bring a little southern grace to this difficult town.
I created the life I lead, and I re-create it every day.
If you want to know more about how I became the Hollywood Housewife, these stories give the broad strokes:
I can always be reached at housewife (at) hollywood housewife dot com and I would love to hear from you!
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